A perfectionist, can be described as a personality trait with high expectations, high performance standards, high levels of dissatisfaction and self-criticism, terrified of making mistakes and fearful of others’ disapproval.
In this article you will discover the Top 3 Mistakes Perfectionists Make That Keep Them Feeling Guilty, Unhappy and Stuck?
Mistake #1: Fear of success
If you are a perfectionist you have the willingness and the ability to achieve success however the fear of success and failure stop you from achieving your goals and striving.
What lies beyond perfectionism is fear; the fear of success and failure.
Why is this first mistake important?
Fear of failure: as a perfectionist you are terrified of making mistakes and showing vulnerability because these are associated with ‘not being perfect or good enough.’
Fear of success: since the perfectionist always looks for imperfections you might ask yourself: ‘am I worthy of success.’ You can...
You learnt in Part 1 of the Law of Attraction series, that:
In this article I want to share with you three behavioural habits you are to adopt in order to create congruence between what you want and what you attract in your life.
1. Harness the power of your thoughts
Your thoughts are very powerful; therefore, it is important that you focus your energy on what you want as opposed to what you do not want. Since the Law of Attraction is always at work you might as well attract what you want. :)
As you observe your habitual way of thinking, do you usually focus your thinking on what you do not want or what you want in your life?
How do you change your thoughts? There is a new habit you are to introduce in your life, the habit of...
When the Secret came out it was both revered and criticized. Despite all this, The Secret has changed many lives worldwide. It opened up new fields of possibilities, strengthened your faith that there is a higher power always at work to support you and brought to your knowledge the universal laws, which govern the universe.
Do you feel that there are too many obligations, too many unsettled areas and more challenges you can actually cope with comfortably in your life right now?
In Part 1 of this article series, I am going to cover how you can use the law of attraction to create greater balance in your life.
The foundation is the following:
The Law of Attraction is always at work:
You attract things to you, which are in accordance with the vibration you are in. You are energy and energy is in a constant state of permutation. Everything in your life is the...
Is there such a thing as a shopaholic?
My answer is yes there is, I was a shopaholic and here is my story.
In my late 20s I was addicted to shopping. I used to go clothes shopping every week-end for about a year! I would hit the high streets and come back home full of bags I could hardly carry. I did not recognize what was going on until I reflected back a few years later on what I did and I reviewed my money management.
A shopaholic is defined as a frequent shopper, especially one who is unable to control his or her spending.
I was showing all the signs of a shopaholic: I could not control my spending and no matter how many clothes, bags or shoes I bought I was still unhappy. It was exciting and exhilarating choosing these items in the shops however by the time I got home, the pleasure was gone and I felt miserable. I asked myself: why did I buy so many items? The pleasure of excessive shopping for clothes was short-lived because I felt guilty afterwards and I recognized that I...
I have heard many people say after a wellness or complementary treatment: “Wow! I did not know I was holding so much stress!”
Stress can take many forms; mental, physical, emotional and environmental and it can create many imbalances.
In this blog article I share with you how to recognize acute signs of stress so that they do not escalate into chronic stress.
Let me explain what I mean by acute and chronic stress:
Acute stress is also known as 'the fight or flight' response, whereby the body prepares to defend itself and it takes about 90 minutes for the metabolism to return to normal.
Chronic stress relates to the demands of daily life. This is the stress we tend to ignore and if left unchecked it can have dramatic effects on our health and well-being.
It is worth emphasizing that each individual responds differently to stress.
Stress can make you excited under certain circumstances, like exercising, falling in love or meeting the challenges of an...
This blog article is for aspiring self-published fiction or non-fiction authors.
I love putting pen to paper. I just love the writing process and the use of words to express myself creatively.
I have loved writing from a young age and I am also an avid reader. I purchase kindle books but I also love buying and touching physical books. I like to feel and discover a book's cover and contents and connect with its author more closely. eBooks are a great invention though, especially if space in your home is limited!
I often meet aspiring authors who started their manuscript ages ago and it still needs to be completed. I know how it feels, I was there myself. I first started writing back in 2009 and I did not publish my first book YES! TO Love until 2016. There was, therefore, a 7 year gap between the initial writing and the actual publication of my first book.
I want to share with you what made it possible, what I did differently and what I learnt so that you can get unstuck and realize...
When you want to transform your life, your starting point is to agree that you will always take 100% responsibility for your life and results. Therefore, you choose not to fall victim of your circumstances and to take full control over your life instead.
Sometimes you expect others to rescue you from your challenges. However, you do not get the help that you need until YOU decide to find solutions to your problems or to take 100% responsibility for your actions and results.
You are more equipped to take 100% responsibility for your life and results when you are able to respond to your life's challenges from a place of awareness; the awareness that this particular challenge is part of your workbook of life and a lesson to be learnt for your own personal and spiritual growth. This requires you to take a moment to reflect on what is seeking to contribute to your own growth in your particular circumstances.
There are two books by Wayne Dyer that changed my life:
There might be times when you are with anger, impatience or you feel frustrated, out of place, tired, overwhelmed by too many challenges overflowing at the same time. It is during these moments of upheaval that you must let finding peace within become your personal motto.
I share in my book YES! TO Love™ Jonathan's story. Jonathan had a conflicting relationship with one of his siblings and this affected the family dynamic. My advice to Jonathan was to change the way he perceived his brother altogether to one of love. Jonathan portrayed a negative image of his brother, expressed disapproval and lacked compassion. However, a change in perception meant that it was time for him to forgive his brother for his actions by sending him love. In addition, Jonathan had to forgive himself for expecting his brother to be or behave in a certain way, the way he wanted him to be or behave. Sending love to another through prayers and meditation is very powerful. As a result of healing his...
A lack of self-confidence can stop you from letting your greatness shine and thus, live you life to your full potential. I reveal in this blog article practical ways you can increase your self-confidence for greater joy and happiness.
What is the actual definition of self-confidence?
The Oxford dictionary gives us the following definition of self-confidence:
A feeling of trust in one's abilities, qualities and judgment.
There are perhaps areas in your life where you have more confidence than others. If you lack self-confidence in one of these areas for example: relationship, career, finances or health, it just means that you need to increase your faith and trust in your ability to pull through.
Even though the origin of your lack of confidence might be deeply impressed in your subconscious what matters today is that you take into consideration and apply the many ways you can increase your self-confidence.
Self-confidence is an inside job and it can be learnt, improved and...
Many of us right now are in transition or going through real transformation whether we are entering a new life cycle, changing jobs, changing location, changing lifestyle or developing spiritually. However, this process might be smooth at times and other times more difficult than expected. You can overcome it and here is how.
In this article I share with you 4 simple ways you can prepare yourself mentally for change so that it is a smooth transition:
1. Fear not, be grateful for change
Perhaps you have been anticipating this moment or perhaps it has come as a shock. Nevertheless, everything is energy, therefore as human beings it is natural that we should go through change. Change means that you have outgrown the old and you are ready for the new; a new adventure and a new workbook of life filled with life lessons.
2. Choose to let go of the old
Change might be the opportunity for you to do things differently this time around. If you felt stuck before it meant that you were...